By:Robert J. Tamasy
成功的人總是找機會要助人，不成功的人總是在問: 「有什麼東西是給我的？ 」 我相信作家兼演說家布萊恩·崔西(Brian Tracy) 說的：「成功跟人有關，要成功最好的方法就是透過幫助別人達成他們的目標，在那個過程裡，他們也會達成你的目標。」
當然，幫助別人聽起來像是一個很高貴的目標，但是要如何去做呢？美國總統約翰‧昆西‧亞當斯（John Quincy Adams 註1）給我們一個想法：「如果你的行動激勵別人有更多的夢想、有更多的學習、做更多事情、也成就更多，你就是一個領導者。」
耶穌復活之後，祂明白地說說出對門徒的呼召，也是一個挑戰： 「所以，你們要去，使萬民作我的門徒，奉父、子、聖靈的名給他們施洗（或譯：給他們施洗，歸於父、子、聖靈的名）。 凡我所吩咐你們的，都教訓他們遵守，我就常與你們同在，直到世界的末了。」（馬太福音28章19-20節）」幾年之後，使徒保羅也說：「所以，我們作基督的使者，就好像 神藉我們勸你們一般。我們替基督求你們與 神和好。」（哥林多後書5章20節）
註1：約翰‧昆西‧亞當斯，美國第六任總統。 他是第二任總統約翰·亞當斯及第一夫人愛比蓋爾‧亞當斯的長子。 在進入政治領域之前，他曾擔任過老師、跟律師 在詹姆斯‧門羅時期擔任美國國務卿，並發展「門羅主義」。
省思 / 討論題目
文章裡面提到成功的人總是在找機會幫助別人？你是否同意這是成功人士的特質之一？解釋你的理由。 文章最後的問題問我們「是誰激勵我們？」「他們用什麼方法激勵我們？ 」「以及我們現在想去幫助的對象？ 」「或是你現在是否正在找機會幫助別人？ 」討論以上的問題。 想一想領袖在專業和個人發展上有沒有一些可以幫助別人的方法？幫助別人是否能擴大領袖的影響力？ 想一想耶穌基督的一生，即使是二千年前，你覺得祂領導效能如何呢？你認為祂是有領袖特質、能傳遞願景的領袖嗎？若你想看或討論聖經對此主題的其他部份，請看以下經文：箴言27章23-27節、28章2節；腓立比書4章9節；提摩太後書2章2節；彼得前書 5章1-4節
A COMMON TRAIT OF EXCEPTIONAL LEADERS
By Robert J. Tamasy
If you go into any bookstore or library, you can find hundreds of books about leadership. And if you do a search on the Internet, you could probably devote a lifetime to exploring the seemingly endless thinking about what comprises a good leader. I am not about to claim special insight into the foremost qualities of top leadership, but exceptional leaders seem to share one particular trait.
“Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What is in it for me?”” states author and speaker Brian Tracy. I believe he is correct. It has been said many times, “you win with people,” and an excellent way to do that is by helping others to achieve their own goals and, in the process, enable them to participate in achieving yours.
Of course, helping others sounds like a noble aim, but how do you go about doing it? One of the first U.S. presidents, John Quincy Adams, offered this perspective: “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”
So it seems to be a combination of leading by action as well as by words. We can communicate verbally how much we value others and seek to motivate them, but when we actively demonstrate our desire to help them reach their potential and achieve their dreams, we are proving to be leaders worth following.
I will never forget one boss who told me, “If you need a place where you can flourish and become all God has designed you to be, we have a place for you.” Then he backed up those words by giving me a position with his organization that in fact enabled me to explore opportunities I could not have imagined before.
When Jesus Christ was selecting His followers, one of the factors that drew others to Him was the promise to help them become much more than they could envision for themselves. His initial choices – Peter and Andrew, James and John – were engaged in their families” fishing trade. They probably expected to spend the rest of their days casting nets into the sea and hauling fish into their boats.
Jesus did not demean their vocation, but urged them to set their sights higher. ““Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will make you fishers of men”” (Matthew 4:19). After they had observed wondrous miracles He had performed, Jesus told them, “I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father” (John 14:12).
After His resurrection, Jesus clarified the call He had for each of His followers, an ambitious assignment: “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations…teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you” (Matthew 28:19-20). Is it any wonder that years later, the apostle Paul declared, “We are therefore Christ”s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ”s behalf: Be reconciled to God” (2 Corinthians 5:20).
Reviewing your career to this point, who has helped you? Who has inspired you to dream more, learn more, do more and become more? And can you identify anyone you are now striving to help, urging and challenging them so they can aspire to become more than they are today?
Robert J. Tamasy is vice president of communications for Leaders Legacy, Inc., a non-profit based in Atlanta, Georgia, U.S.A.
What do you think of the statement that successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others? Do you agree that is – or should be – one characteristic of success? Why or why not? Considering the final questions, who comes to mind as someone that has helped you to this point in your career – and in what ways? Can you think of someone you presently are helping – or are you looking for opportunities to do so? Explain your answer. Think of some specific ways a leader can help others in their professional or personal development, or both – how might this enhance the leader”s influence and impact? From what you know of the life of Jesus Christ, even though his time on earth was 2,000 years ago, how would you assess his leadership effectiveness? What – if anything – does that show about the legacy of a charismatic, vision-casting leader?If you would like to look at or discuss other portions from the Bible that relate to this topic, consider the following brief sampling of passages: Proverbs 27:23-27, 28:2; Philippians 4:9; 2 Timothy 2:2; 1 Peter 5:1-4