By: Dr. Rick Warren
每天平均與人交談30次。 生命中的20%將花在談話上。 一年說的話可寫成66本書，且每本書有800頁之多！每個男人平均每天說20,000個字。每個女人平均每天說30,000個字。（可能這可解釋為何有些丈夫晚上回家後無話可說，而他們的妻子還渴望交談：因為男人可能已在工作中用完了他每天20,000個字的配額，但妻子在工作中也同樣用了20,000個字，所以她的配額還有10,000個字可說！）
思想 / 討論題目
你會如何描述你自己－－是多話的人或安靜的人？你認為本文所引述有關說話的統計數據正確嗎？若正確，那些數據告訴我們在每天說話時需要注意什麼？ 回想一次你說的話對某人造成傷害。也想一次某人說的話傷了你。那些記憶激起你的心中什麼情緒？ 看看本文作者從聖經中找到有關「口舌管理」的建議，哪一項對你似乎是最重要的？請解釋。 你認為你今天可以開始採取什麼步驟，使你在向別人說什麼話以及如何說話時更小心？註：若你有聖經且想要看有關此主題的其他經文，請看：
THE ART OF MANAGING YOUR MOUTH
By: Dr. Rick Warren
If you’re a typical business or professional person, according to communication experts, you:
Average 30 conversations a day. Will spend 20 percent of your life talking. Will speak enough words in one year to fill 66 books, each 800 pages in length!The average man speaks 20,000 words a day. The average woman speaks 30,000. (Maybe this explains why some husbands have nothing to say when they get home at night and their wives are so eager to converse: A man might have used up his daily allotment of 20,000 words at work, but his wife could do the same and still have 10,000 words remaining in her daily quota!)
We have become a world of talkers. Talk is everywhere: talk radio, TV talk shows, car phones, cell phones. The problem is this: The more you talk, the greater the odds are that your mouth will get you into trouble!
Here are some simple suggestions for “mouth management” from the Bible.
THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK! Pause and engage your mind before opening your mouth. “Intelligent people think before they speak. What they say is then more persuasive” (Proverbs 16:23). "You will have to live with the consequences of everything you say” (Proverbs 18:20).
ALWAYS SPEAK THE TRUTH. We often hold back the truth to avoid conflict. We do not want to “rock the boat.” Eventually, however, this approach makes things worse. Dishonesty destroys relationships. “Someone who holds back the truth causes trouble" (Proverbs10:20).
A real friend will be honest with you. "An honest answer is the sign of a true friendship" (Proverbs 24:26). “In the end, people appreciate frankness more than flattery" (Proverbs 28:23).
SPEAK THE TRUTH WITH LOVE. This is the filter for the second point above. Never use truth as a club to batter people. “Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as a sword, but wisely spoken words can heal" (Proverbs 12:18). "A word of encouragement does wonders!" (Proverbs 12:25).
SPEAK TO HEAL, NOT TO WOUND. With careless words often we can cause more long-term injury than striking someone physically. For that reason, we must be careful to use words that will produce a positive, beneficial result. “Do not let any unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29).
And finally, ASK GOD FOR HELP IN MANAGING YOUR MOUTH. I love the Living Bible translation of Psalm 141:3,"Help me Lord, to keep my mouth shut!"
© 2010, Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved. Adapted from a column by Dr. Rick Warren, the author of numerous books, including the highly acclaimed, The Purpose-Drive Life, which has been translated into many languages and sold throughout the world. It affirms the importance of having a carefully considered, clearly expressed purpose to guide everyday life. It has been named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He also has written The Purpose-Driven Church and The Purpose of Christmas.
How would you describe yourself – as a talkative person or a quiet person? Do you think the statistics cited about talking and spoken words are accurate? And if so, what does that tell us about our need to be aware of the things we say during the course of a typical day? Think of a time you can recall when you inflicted injury to someone by something that you said. Also think of a time when someone said something that was hurtful to you. What emotions are stirred in your heart and mind by those memories? Looking at Dr. Warren”s suggestions for “mouth management” from the Bible, which seem most important to you? Explain your answer. What steps do you think you could start taking today to be more careful about what you say to other people – and how you say it?NOTE: If you have a Bible, consider these other passages that relate to this topic:
Proverbs 10:19,32, 15:1,4,23, 17:9,28, 18:7-8,21, 21:23, 25:15; James 3:3-12